Sunday, June 6, 2010
- rachel :)
Friday, June 4, 2010
Ernest's part of the group project! Reworked
Since Facebook was launched to the public, it has become a widespread phenomenon with over 400 million users and growing. The growing population on this online community has advocated the rise in online societies and, consequently, many relationships have bloomed as a result of Facebook. Not to say that there were much less relationships before Facebook was around; however, Facebook has revolutionized the term “relationship” in a whole different aspect than before. Susan Jacob has a Phd. in relationship study and she defines relationship in the Merriam-Webster online dictionary as, “the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship (Kinship) and the state of affairs existing between those relations.” What this meant before Facebook revolutionized the term “relationship” was that relationships were certain bonds between people who deeply cared for each other (ie. Love, Liking, Kinship). However, Facebook changed the term relationship into something much different. Although it does incorporate this aspect and there are many people who do still see it as this way, the term “relationship” has become something that is so common and “tossed” around carelessly that it doesn’t hold the meaning that it stood for before.
The relationship “status” is not for the persons in the relationship, per se, but actually for those around them to acknowledge and keep track of it. Also, there are those who post the relationship status on Facebook just for the attention and the extra comments. Rather than real-life being enough to know that one is in a relationship, now if it’s not online on Facebook, it isn’t even official to some people. As seen on Time Magazine, Annie Geitner replies, “Some moron tried to convince me that my relationship is not legitimate because I don’t have it on Facebook.” This is appalling to read because who is to say that a whole bond between two different people is illegitimate because it’s not broadcasted on a social networking system? A close friend suggests that “since Facebook has come around, relationships have changed meanings in a whole different light. The word stands for a different meaning now. Before, relationships were had because two people really liked each other and it was mainly for themselves but since Facebook has come around, I believe many people are in relationships nowadays for the attention and just to change their status’s on Facebook. It’s just one extra thing on Facebook to get more comments and replies from friends.” His meanings hold true and relationships before Facebook essentially held greater meaning in and of itself rather than after Facebook has revolutionized the term.
Privacy has also become a problem regarding Facebook and relationships. By posting the statuses of every part of one's life including relationship statuses, any outsider has complete knowledge and access to one’s personal life. This has gotten so out of hand that there are media reports of murders, suicides, and problems all through-out Facebook. Because of this, many people are scared of many aspects and have resorted to find ways to protect themselves from these fiendish people.
A personal friend recently posted on Facebook "ReclaimPrivacy.org | Facebook Privacy Scannerwww.reclaimprivacy.org
This website provides an independent and open tool for scanning your Facebook privacy settings. The source code and its development will always remain open and transparent." This is basically to scan and protect/change privacy settings that can potentially be harmful to one's identity and status. It scans and helps bring to notice many different privacy settings including relationship statuses. After I saw this post, I immediately clicked on it to check my privacy settings and saw that i was at risk of privacy thefts and quickly changed the problems. Much like myself, this post got Devin, my friend, many comments ranging from, "dude this sh*t is legit! Thanks!" to "nice find dude, our film professor spoke of this before and i'm glad most of mine was secure after the scan." The extent to which this privacy issue goes is unknown; however, it is possible to stop privacy issues with the right knowledge and that includes relationship problems. If somebody wants to know the status of how a couple is doing, all they have to do is go on Facebook, click on Wall to Wall between the two people, and read up on their life from past to present and judge for themselves. This is complete invasion of privacy and very scary that almost anybody has access to this information.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Update
I'm sorry I haven't been to class for the past week, I caught the flu and I won't be able to make it to class today either. I was hoping one of you could please update me on what has been going on and where we are as far as the paper goes. Thanks so much. My email is judithh@uci.edu .
Disable your relationship status on Facebook without making the news
interestingly enough, when you are done with your relationship, there is not scott free way to end it without everyone knowing about it!!
Facebook: New Relationship Killer
Your request is being processed... Facebook Could Predict When Your Relationship Will End: REPORT
The Post-Breakup Facebook Effect
Facebook suicide: the end of a virtual life
Facebook suicide: the end of a virtual life
Can online friendships ruin real-life relationships? Some users of a very popular social networking site believe so – and that’s why they’re taking drastic action, says Emma Justice
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Possible Intro Paragraph?
Feel free to add, change, whatever! Sorry I haven't put up my two pages yet; it's not finished. Should be up later today!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Privacy and Relationship Before Facebook and During
Since Facebook was launched to the public, it has become a widespread phenomenon with over 400 million users and growing. The growing population on this online community has advocated the rise in online societies and, consequently, many relationships have bloomed as a result of Facebook. Not to say that there were much less relationships before Facebook was around; however, Facebook has revolutionized the term “relationship” in a whole different aspect than before. Susan Jacob has a Phd. in relationship study and she defines relationship in the Merriam-Webster online dictionary as, “the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship (Kinship) and the state of affairs existing between those relations.” What this meant before Facebook revolutionized the term “relationship” was that relationships were certain bonds between people who deeply cared for each other (ie. Love, Liking, Kinship). However, Facebook changed the term relationship into something much different. Although it does incorporate this aspect and there are many people who do still see it as this way, the term “relationship” has become something that is so common and “tossed” around carelessly that it doesn’t hold its meaning that it did before.
The relationship “status” is not for the persons in the relationship, per se, but actually for those around them to acknowledge and keep track of it. Also, there are those who post the relationship status on Facebook just for the attention and the extra comments. Rather than real-life being enough to know that one is in a relationship, now if it’s not online on Facebook, it isn’t even official to some people. As seen on Time Magazine, Annie Geitner replies, “Some moron tried to convince me that my relationship is not legitimate because I don’t have it on Facebook.” This is appalling to read because who is to say that a whole bond between two different people is illegitimate because it’s not broadcasted on a social networking system? Sabir Greenwell, a close friend, suggests that “since Facebook has come around, relationships have changed meanings in a whole different light. The word stands for a different meaning now. Before, relationships were had because two people really liked each other and it was mainly for themselves but since Facebook has come around, I believe many people are in relationships nowadays for the attention and just to change their status’s on Facebook. It’s just one extra thing on Facebook to get more comments and replies from friends.” His meanings hold true and relationships before Facebook essentially held greater meaning in and of itself rather than after Facebook has revolutionized the term.
Privacy has also become a problem regarding Facebook and relationships. By posting the status's of every part of one's life including relationship status's, any outsider has complete knowledge and access to your personal life. This has gotten so out of hand that there are media reports of murders, suicides, and problems all through Facebook. Because of this, many people are scared of many aspects and have resorted to find ways to protect themselves from these fiendish people. Devin Guthrie, a personal friend, recently posted on Facebook "ReclaimPrivacy.org | Facebook Privacy Scannerwww.reclaimprivacy.org
PRE-FACEBOOK
Before Facebook, people did not have the luxury of keeping in contact with another person without verbally communicating with them. We did not have constant status updates or recently uploaded pictures to keep us in the loop. Our impressions, whether first, second, or last were made personally. With Facebook, we have the help of a whole profile dedicated to what type of friends people have, the pictures that they are tagged in, or comments made from their friends. Joseph B. Walther et al. examines the relationship between physical attractiveness and Facebook, claiming that if an average person is in a picture with a person that is unattractive they are seen as more attractive, but if an average person is in a picture with a person that is attractive they are seen as less attractive. This demonstrates the affect Facebook has on the perception of beauty when presented in a photo. Without Facebook, we are more likely to make impressions based on face to face interactions rather than photos on a profile page. Though there still may be judgments made on physical beauty, it is not based on a 2D photo.
This leads us to the idea of a virtual versus physical world and how this may determine the types of relationships we have with others. Walther and Parks (2002) claim that social networking sites, such as Facebook, facilitate mixed mode relationships. They define mixed mode relationships as “those which move from an electronic context to a face-to-face setting or vice-versa…in the case of social networking systems we may see many relationships that hover between the virtual and physical quite frequently” (CITE). A “friend” on Facebook can mean something completely different than a friend in reality. Personally, I can relate to having friends on Facebook that I have never met before or are just acquaintances, whom I do not consider my friends. However, being Facebook friends with someone now means that you virtually share some sort of cyber relationship with another person that can be seen as a friendship. Because of this phenomena, the process on forming relationships with others is altered by the constant usage of social networking sites, like Facebook. This can be explained by Nick Yee and Jeremey Bailenson who call this the Proteus Effect—“when thousands of users interact, most of whom have chosen attractive avatars, the virtual community may become more friendly and intimate. This may impact the likelihood of relationship formation online” (CITE).
In our report we conducted surveys and face-to-face interviews in order to better understand the effects of Facebook on forming and maintaining relationships.
*remember to change the name if you want to use this interview!
1.How do you feel that Facebook has affected your relationships either negatively, positively, or both?
No effect. The whole "we're in a relationship" on Facebook didn't do much. And if we were in a relationship, we talked outside of Facebook, so it really didn't matter to me. But, at the same time, it can add to your relationship, where you can flaunt your relationship and you can document your memories together.
2.Do you feel your behavior has changed through the use of Facebook either in real life, or online? Why?
Yes, Facebook is not a means for everything. I feel like Facebook kind of controls people's lives. Friend request, events, etc. No one calls anyone for parties, its basically: check your Facebook events. It is easier to coordinate things now.
3.When your relationship becomes “official”, do you advertise that fact on facebook? Why, or why not? I put I am in a relationship, even though it's not really necessary. Depending on what kind of relationship it is also--like if its secret or something. I wouldn't personally care if my relationship wasn't official on Facebook because it's not about that.
4.Do you feel that Facebook affects other relationships positively, negatively, or both? Why? Some good, some bad. You can't hide things as well. But if you're in long distance, it's a way of communicating. So, its quite beneficial.
5. Did you have a relationship you got a Facebook? How was it different? We used Myspace, so basically it was the same. We wouldn't have started talking together again, and reunited, and then gotten in a relationship.
paper
Since the launch of Facebook in January of 2004, the social networking site has become a world-wide phenomenon that was recently ranked the number one most popular social networking site followed by Myspace. Founded by Mark Zuckerberg and his college roommates as well as several computer science students, the social networking site was at first only available to Harvard students until it was eventually accessible to several colleges in the Boston area, the Ivy League, and Stanford. Ultimately, access was granted to high school students and other college students until September of 2006, when any person thirteen or over was able to make their own Facebook profile.
Today, Facebook has over 400 million users and counting. However, there have been many dilemmas about the use of Facebook. Some countries have banned the use of Facebook or have put many limits on the access that the users have (i.e. censoring by the government of certain words/pictures). Facebook also ran into several privacy issues; however, the privacy of Facebook profiles have been changed to range from controlling who can see your pictures to who can search you. Privacy on Facebook has been increased to the point where you can even control what each individual friend can see on your profile. However, this privacy does have its consequences, especially when it comes down to intimate relationships.
Although currently there is not much information on the consequences that Facebook has on intimate relationships, the research that has been done on the subject seems to be pointing towards negative correlations between the use of Facebook and the quality of intimate relationships. One television show on the channel MTV called True Life did a segment called “I have Digital Drama,” which follows around two young couples who have allowed cell phones and Facebook deteriorate their relationship. For one couple, their distrust for one another went so far as putting locks on their cell phones so they could not read each other’s texts and going into each others’ Facebooks in order to see who they have been talking to, which put a huge strain on their relationship and eventually led to their break up. The boyfriend was constantly on Facebook while the girl was always texting and often times would “Facebook stalk” his page to see what “Facebook skanks” he was talking to, often times even referring to them as his “Facebook girlfriends.” Although this is a more extreme example of the downsides of having a Facebook and being in a relationship, in everyday life, people even in our own community do experience this problem, even if it is a milder form. For example, one couple that we interviewed shares a Facebook so that her boyfriend, Andrew*, would not be worried about who she was talking to and adding. He even threatened to break up with her a few times if she ever made herself a Facebook. As for his girlfriend, Hannah*, she has full access to Andrew’s Facebook and has even gotten in a few fights with Andrew when he changed his password or if she noticed that the pictures uploaded were of him and another girl but she was not in any of the photos.
Another couple that we interviewed did not have so much a problem with who they were talking on Facebook with but rather that they were always on Facebook, even when they see each other, which was at least five times a week. When asked how strong they felt about their relationship before and after Facebook, they rated their pre-Facebook relationship as a 10 whereas after Facebook, they only rated the strength of their relationship as an 8. When asked about the level of intimacy that they felt before and after Facebook, they were satisfied with their level of physical intimacy pre-Facebook; however, after they started Facebook, they became unsatisfied with their level of physical intimacy. When asked why they felt this way, the boyfriend, Dan*, replied “Facebook has too much drama. Every time we logged on, it would just ruin our mood to do anything. So avoiding Facebook was a good idea at the time.”
Other partners that we interviewed experienced less jealousy when it came down to their partners and Facebook. However, what we noticed was that the people that experienced more jealousy on Facebook spent more time on Facebook. The relative time that they spent face to face was relatively the same, which averaged around 3-5 times a week. This data corresponds to recent research, which was published in an academic journal called Cyberpsychology and Behavior. The article, entitled “More Information than You Ever Wanted: Does Facebook Bring Out the Green Eyed Monster of Jealousy?” talks about the results of a recent survey/research done by Muise, Christofides, and Desmarais (2009) about Facebook and relationships, noting that people that were more likely to be jealous, also known as “trait jealousy” were also more likely to be “Facebook jealous.” On top of that, the amount of time that was spent on Facebook contributed to jealousy. The researchers stated after their research that “[Their] results suggest that Facebook may expose an individual to potentially jealousy-provoking information about their partner, which creates a feedback loop whereby heightened jealousy leads to increased surveillance of a partner’s Facebook page. Persistent surveillance results in further exposure to jealousy-provoking information” (Muise, Christofides, Desmarais, 2009).
I used an outside source and a TV show but I'm not sure how to really do the citations correctly. Also I put an asterisk next to the names and on word I put a foot note saying that an asterisk means that the name has been changed to protect privacy.
Facebook during relationships
Facebook has greatly affected how relationships both in the real world and virtual. Facebook has both advantages and disadvantages for intimate relationships. It allows a couple to communicate openly and privately. Features such as relationship statuses, status updates, photo albums, online friends, and online communications all have impacted intimate relationships. Facebook in many ways impacts how relationships today are looked at and influenced. Moreover, gender seems to affect how facebook is looked at. In today’s ever growing technological society, facebook has embedded itself in the changing norms of relationships.
Different features influence relationships and how relationships are looked at in different ways. The relationship status on facebook is a feature that changes the way relationships are looked at. The relationship status on facebook publically tells the facebook community if a person is single, in a relationship, in an open relationship, and more. Furthermore, the relationship status, if one chooses, can say who one is in the relationship with. One of my interviewees said, “If its not facebook official, its not official.” Some people believe that a facebook relationship is the final step in making an intimate relationship “official.” Others, however, stray away from making it facebook public because a relationship status has no meaning to them. Many people I interviewed said that their status did not mean anything and most of the time they were in “joke” relationships with their best friend. Moreover, some said that facebook relationship statuses put pressure on the relationship. One of my interviewees said, “a relationship status makes it public, that means people know when you get together with someone and when you break up. It makes it hard.” The pressure of having all your friends know when a relationship is made or has failed is hard on some the people I interviewed. Although the relationship status adds pressure, many of the people I interviewed believe that a facebook relationship status is not necessary for a legitimate relationship. In fact, many of the interviewees said that a couple could have a successful and meaningful relationship without having their relationship status on facebook changed.
Facebook has some advantages for intimate relationships that actively use it. First, facebook allows the couple to communicate at most times. The wall-to-wall and private messages allow for a couple to publically and privately keep in contact and show affection. Furthermore, it allows for a long distance couple to feel as if they are close. A long distance couple can still feel close to one another if they are constantly sharing their experiences through conversation and pictures. Also, facebook keeps a record of the photos a couple has taken and conversations they have had. One interviewee said, “Facebook is like a scrapbook for a relationship.” A couple could always go on facebook and reminisce about places they have been to or remember inside jokes they once had.
On the other hand, facebook has some disadvantages for intimate relationships as well. Facebook, according to some of the interviewees, almost takes privacy and personal space away. Facebook, in some cases does not let a couple keep things from their partner because of the newsfeed and the public nature of facebook. Moreover, the newsfeed causes problems for some couples. According to an interviewee, “The newsfeed can cause jealousy and other types of problems.” Many of the people I interviewed said that their partner could interpret things on facebook the wrong way. Some couples have to watch what goes on the newsfeed, whom they talk to, or whom they befriend in fear of their partner’s reaction. Some couples go as far as un-tagging themselves in photographs or keeping events secret from their partner. Some said that they hid things on facebook to prevent their partner finding out they did things they were not supposed to be doing.
Facebook has also added a new layer to the already complex idea of relationships. More specifically, it adds a virtual level that takes a relationship beyond the real world. For example, a couple may keep real world secrets from one another. Facebook adds another level and now couples can keep secrets on facebook from each other. Moreover, a couple’s privacy level changes with facebook. The public view of a couple is enhanced because of the public nature of facebook. In addition, privacy within the couple has changed as well. Some people I interviewed have claimed they share their passwords with their significant other. Although many say that it wasn’t to spy but purely out of courtesy to their mate.
Monday, May 17, 2010
down below!
i also posted another link i found. its a study conducted by two people about the relationship between communication and the stability of a relationship!!! i hope it helps :)
• Studied “whether and at what rate impressions are formed online, how online impressions may be like or unlike offline impressions, and how people judge the authenticity of self-presentation online”
• “What complicates these sites from an impression formation perspective is that people other than the person about whom the site is focused also contribute information to the site”
o In relation to Facebook (comments, photos, etc)
• “more importantly, whereas postings by other people on one’s own profile reflect the character of the individuals who made the postings, it is also possible that observers’ reactions of those others may affect perceptions of the target profile maker as well, even though the profile maker his-or herself did not initiate or condone the postings”
o People associate anything that is on your profile to you as a person, even though you may not condone the behavior/language of whoever is posting on your profile
• March 7, 2007 (Facebook users: approx 19 million)
• “even if people question what has been said about them, they may follow Facebook norms and leave questionable posts on display”
o Norm: deleting a post “defeats the spirit of Facebook’s very utility and implicitly challenges the rule of friendship”
• Tufekci and Spence (2007) conducted a survey
o Result: “half of Facebook users….reported the discovery of unwanted pictures posted by other people, linked to their own profiles”
• Contrast effect: if an average person is in a picture with a person that is unattractive they are seen as more attractive, but if they are in a picture with a person that is attractive they are less attractive
Stephanie Tom Tong, Brandon Van Der Heide, Lindsey Langwell, Joseph B. Walther, Too Much of a Good Thing? The Relationship Between Number of Friends and Interpersonal Impressions on Facebook. Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication 13(3):531–49, 2008.
• Relationships between attractiveness and Facebook
o Study: kindergarteners give a picture of two same sex people (one previously rated as attractive and another as unattractive) kindergarterners would rather be friends with the more attractive individual
o “attractiveness halo effect”: attractiveness and social acceptance are linked
• “Social networking systems can facilitate mixed-mode relationships. Walther and Parks (2002) defined mixed mode relationships as those which move from an electronic context to a face-to-face setting or vice-versa. In this case of social networking systems we may see many relaionthips that hover between the virtual and physical quite frequently.”
Nick Yee and Jeremey Bailenson, The Proteus Effect: The Effect of Transformed Self-Representation on Behavior. Human Communication Research 33(3):271–90, 2007.
• Proteus effect: “an individual’s behavior conforms to their self-representation independent of how others perceive them”
• “the Proteus Effect may impact behavior on the community level. When thousands of users interact, most of whom have chosen attractive avatars, the virtual community may become more friendly and intimate. This may impact the likelihood of relationship formation online”
OTHER LINKS
http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/cgi-bin/fulltext/119551041/PDFSTART
Communication Networks and the Development of Romantic Relationships: An Expansion of Uncertainty Reduction Theory
Malcom R. Parks, Mara B. Adelman (University of Washington)
• Explored premarital romantic relationships
• Respondents completed questionnaires and participated in telephone interviews three months later
• More communication better relationship
• Goal of this study to enhance our understanding of developing romantic relationships be expanding uncertainty reduction theory to include
o The amount of communication between he individual and the partner’s friends and family
o The extent to which members of the partners’ networks express support for the romantic relationship
• “increased uncertainty also means that more time and energy must be expended to achive understanding. Berger and Roloff (1982) have suggested that relationships are more likely to terminate under these conditions because the participants become weary of the increased demands on their time and energy”
Thursday, May 13, 2010
some outside sources.
Interp survey questions
How do you know your love is real? Check Facebook
Is facebook helping or hurting your love life?
Effects of Myspace and Facebook
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
survey questions
I couldn't post the survey here so I sent all of you guys an email!